In a post on a site called Healing Cross-dressing, the author states that "I am proud to announce that I have gone for 1 year now without cross-dressing or giving into cross-dressing fiction, my two main cross-dressing vices. It feels very very good."
I don't condone nor discourage abstinence from cross-dressing; I've always been more interested in the motivation. And as I read through this blog, I get the sense that the author feels a great deal of guilt when he indulges his cross-dressing urges; that it is somehow wrong.
He goes on to say that "This certainly doesn’t make me a perfect person, or mean I’m not still sinful. In fact, I’ve had a couple times in this past year where I’ve fantasized about cross-dressing or briefly looked at cross-dressing pictures, not to mention other sins I struggle with like not loving God fully enough, pride, selfishness, etc."
I find these remarks curious. Does cross-dressing -- or fantasizing about it -- somehow make him less "perfect"? Is there such a thing as a perfect person? Aren't we all perfect in our imperfectness?
He continues: "But overall it’s been a year of purity, chastity, spiritual growth, and victory." While I am happy for the author that he feels good about his chastity, I would suggest that he is merely experiencing the honeymoon effect of a typical purge. But in time the urges that drive his fascination with cross-dressing will emerge again, or manifest themselves in other ways, still leaving the author a slave to something he doesn't understand or has the strength to confront.
I wish the author well in his quest. However, I would suggest that until he really understands from where his cross-dressing desires originate, that they will forever linger in the shadows of his soul like an echo that is not quite audible.
Therefore his remarks that "I can honestly say that this has been one of the best, or THE best year of my life, and one of the main reasons for this is because of this victory over crossdressing" is misguided, if not delusional; you haven't conquered anything [which your thoughts throughout the year support], you've merely suppressed it, which is not the same thing.
If the author truly wishes to give up crossdressing, he first has to explore it and himself to the core, understand it, and then deal with it in whatever way is prudent with the information accumulated.
Healing Cross-Dressing Blog